Every day we are constantly taking in information around us, both consciously and unconsciously. We're only aware of a small portion of what we see and hear. Marketing uses many different tactics to get you to invest in someone's product, including sabotaging how we feel about ourselves. If you're not ready to unplug from social media and your television, there are some other steps you can do to help overwrite some of the subconscious programs you're running without your awareness.
Hypnosis is a highly-effective way to remove unconscious programs that are controlling behaviors and habits, as well as ways of thinking. A hypnotic state is a deep state of relaxation that allows the critical mind to be purposefully subdued. There are a lot of free hypnosis programs on YouTube, but make sure you're not driving and won't be interrupted. This altered state of consciousness is very effective. I've personally used downloadable mp3 programs from hypnosisdownloads.com, and my very favorite is How to Love Yourself. It's a must have hypnosis script for anyone who has been hard on themselves (that's most of us, right?}.
Another excellent way to reprogram the mind is to calm it. No better way to do this than to meditate. I've found that there are a lot of very good guided meditations on YouTube, and so many different types. I really love this Loving Kindness meditation that was created for college students at the University of New Hampshire.
Binaurals or binaural beats are composed of two tones (one in each ear) that are slightly different in frequency, your brain processes a beat at the difference of the frequencies. This is called a binaural beat.
Binaural beats induce a state similar to meditation, but more quickly. They are said to reduce anxiety, increase focus and concentration, lower stress, increase relaxation, uplift mood, promote creativity, and manage pain. One of my favorite binaurals is from Rising Higher Meditation on YouTube, and is meant to be listened to while you're sleeping. I've found that when I'm sitting at my desk at work I can listen to this and still be able to do my job effectively. Check out Positive Affirmations for Self Love. Healing. (432 Hz). It's more than 7 hours of spoken self-love affirmations on top of the 432 Hz frequency.
Isochronics (or isochronic tones) are regular beats of a single tone at evenly spaced intervals. These types of tones are used to sync with a specific brainwave frequency – gamma (high concentration and problem solving), beta (active, waking state), alpha (calm and restful), theta (early sleep, daydreaming), and delta (deep sleep or dreaming).
Hypnosis, meditation, binaurals, and isochronics alter your state of consciousness and shouldn't be used while you're doing anything where you need to be fully aware of your surroundings.
Subliminal messages have been around for a long time. They were used very successfully in the 1950s until they were banned in 1958 in the United States, the United Kingdom, and Australia. You can use this type of messaging to transform your subconscious. Subliminal messages are typically placed behind music. (If you're interested in customized subliminal programs, please ask me as I do this for myself and others). Unlike other forms of mind programming, you can listen to subliminal messages while you're doing other things.
Have you ever been told to just get over something? There are a lot of inspirational quotes out there to tell you to keep a positive attitude, but that message can sometimes be very damaging. Generally, this advice is a defense mechanism for people who don't know how to help. There's nothing more invalidating than someone telling you the pain you may be feeling is selfish and/or self-created.
Pain is a way of helping us establishing boundaries and is absolutely necessary for us to understand how and why we feel a certain way. When we're told to be positive when we're moving into the darkness, we are bypassing the alchemical process of transformation. Instead of healing ourselves, we become detached. This is called dissociation.
In Toxic Positivity: Don't Always Look on the Brightside, Dr. Konstantin Lukin Ph.D. says "Accepting difficult emotions helps with coping and with decreasing the intensity of those emotions. Think about how good it feels when you can finally talk about how hard your day was with your partner, parent, or friend. Getting things off your chest, including negative things, is like lifting a weight from your shoulders, even if it’s more difficult than pretending everything is fine."
The nigredo, or blackness, literally means putrefaction or decomposition and is the first step in the transformational process. It is represented by the Tower in the tarot. This is a signal to us that something needs to change and in order to transform our pain into something meaningful we have to allow it to be broken down. Only then is the healing process possible. If we bypass our emotions, the pain becomes stagnant and festers creating a polluted emotional body.
We're not meant to always be positive, but we are meant to find peace and understanding through our pain. We can be hopeful, but only if that doesn't mean not being authentic. All of our feelings and experiences are valid and learning experiences for our journey here.
This post was original written in January 2020.
We've all heard people say "He or she is an old soul." In a meditative state, I sat down and asked for an explanation. Here's what I learned.
Q: How old is my soul?
A: As old as everyone and as young as everything. All souls are the same age, infinite. We are all one, therefore we are all the same age.
Q: If we are all the same age, then why are some people wiser than others? Where does this knowledge come from?
A: We are all the same age because time does not exist.
Q: If time does not exist how are there past lives?
Q: What are cycles?
A: Before I explain a cycle, remember that time does not exist, but consciousness does. Wherever you are “conscious” is where you are. It is the now. It is the I AM statement and it is your current rotation. It is the cycle that you’re experiencing.
Q: Which cycle am I on?
A: An advanced rotation of this life form, a cycle of this life…not your first and not your last. Time does not exist; therefore, you do not exist in it. What you’re experiencing right now is a choice. This incarnation of you is the one you chose to be conscious of right now. All other versions of you, all other incarnations also exist, but your consciousness does not exist there. Your energy is present here.
Q: How is my energy here and how does it work with me consciously?
A: Energy has no age, but it does have frequency, vibration, and intensity.
Q: What is intensity?
A: Intensity is why some people seem to be older souls than others. It is intensity that defines how advanced spiritually someone is because this is how much energy has been put into their spiritual bodies. The availability of this energy is dependent on how many rotations of each lifetime have been experienced. It has nothing to do with age or time, but rather frequency and vibration of the spiritual body. The term “old soul” is used but physical age has nothing to do with it.
This post was original written sometime in 2013. Repurposed for this site.