If you’re walking the earth today, you’ve been through something in your lifetime that’s brought you pain – breakups, death, job loss, confrontations, money troubles, misunderstandings, bullying … the list is endless. There is no such thing as a life without pain. It was the Buddha said that “Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.”
Yet so many of us are ill-equipped to manage pain. That’s because we’re force fed illusion at the benefit of someone else who is also trying to avoid pain. We’re led to believe that in order to avoid pain, you need to have a perfect body, millions of dollars, a satisfying career, a romantic partner, home ownership, youthful appearance, the newest technology … and it’s all bullshit. None of those things will prevent you one iota of pain. NOT ONE.
We’re all terrified of pain because to many, pain is suffering. The numbing of our human experience is multi-billion dollar industry. Distracting yourself from pain does not remove it. It only buries it into your subconscious where it turns on you – in your dreams, in your interactions with others, and the most damning … your perception of self. That is where your personal demons rise from the depths of your subconscious to destroy you.
Trauma is just pain that you couldn’t escape, but you survived. Trauma is pain stored in the subconscious that serves as a reminder things could have turned out differently and you may not have. Surviving a car accident is a reminder that being in a car could hurt or even kill you. Witnessing a car accident is also trauma that serves the same type of warning in our subconscious that being in a car is not safe.
Our primitive brain is only concerned with being safe and the continuation of our genes, but inside each of us is a spark of life that is greater than our physical bodies. Our soul connects us to spirit – the force of life that has created all things.
Unfortunately, the construct of organized religion has limited our ability to connect to spirit without help. We’re told how to think, feel, and live. This disconnects us from spirit instead of empowering us. It makes us afraid to be connected or tuned in. The good news is that we can ALL connect to spirit. Spirit can’t remove pain from your life, but it can give you the love you need to work through it. It doesn’t judge, condemn, or punish you for your pain. Spirit is the purest love. It is all the names it’s been given and none of them. It is far greater than we can understand without allowing it to simply be.
I discovered through my lifetime that pain really is inevitable, but you don’t have to suffer. I’ve lived through unimaginable loss. I’ve experienced things I wish I hadn’t. I’ve known others to suffer, and it is gut-wrenching to witness. I’ve been fortunate to have a lifeline to spirit from the very beginning of my life – I was born precognitive, empathic, and a medium.
I thought for many years it was a curse, but the truth is it’s an amazing gift. I’ve been able to manage pain with the help of spirit, even in my moments of terrifying doubt. I somehow have been able to fall into the deepest pits of darkness and claw my way back out into the light.
I’ve contemplated suicide so many times and I’m not afraid to admit it. There were times I was so distraught that I just wanted the pain to end, but here I am. I know that my life will always have pain, but I absolutely refuse to suffer.
Spirit has taught me how to manage pain by tuning in and listening. Once I started listening, I started learning. I still sometimes want to give up when the pain is overwhelming, but it passes more quickly the more I tune in. You are capable of this, too. I’m going to share the strategies I’ve been given to manage my pain in the hopes that you can use some of them. It’s taken all of these strategies to get where I am today. I know you can do it. Let’s get through our lives together. You are so loved.