Have you ever been told to just get over something? There are a lot of inspirational quotes out there to tell you to keep a positive attitude, but that message can sometimes be very damaging. Generally, this advice is a defense mechanism for people who don't know how to help. There's nothing more invalidating than someone telling you the pain you may be feeling is selfish and/or self-created.
Pain is a way of helping us establishing boundaries and is absolutely necessary for us to understand how and why we feel a certain way. When we're told to be positive when we're moving into the darkness, we are bypassing the alchemical process of transformation. Instead of healing ourselves, we become detached. This is called dissociation.
In Toxic Positivity: Don't Always Look on the Brightside, Dr. Konstantin Lukin Ph.D. says "Accepting difficult emotions helps with coping and with decreasing the intensity of those emotions. Think about how good it feels when you can finally talk about how hard your day was with your partner, parent, or friend. Getting things off your chest, including negative things, is like lifting a weight from your shoulders, even if it’s more difficult than pretending everything is fine."
The nigredo, or blackness, literally means putrefaction or decomposition and is the first step in the transformational process. It is represented by the Tower in the tarot. This is a signal to us that something needs to change and in order to transform our pain into something meaningful we have to allow it to be broken down. Only then is the healing process possible. If we bypass our emotions, the pain becomes stagnant and festers creating a polluted emotional body.
We're not meant to always be positive, but we are meant to find peace and understanding through our pain. We can be hopeful, but only if that doesn't mean not being authentic. All of our feelings and experiences are valid and learning experiences for our journey here.
This post was original written in January 2020.
We've all heard people say "He or she is an old soul." In a meditative state, I sat down and asked for an explanation. Here's what I learned.
Q: How old is my soul?
A: As old as everyone and as young as everything. All souls are the same age, infinite. We are all one, therefore we are all the same age.
Q: If we are all the same age, then why are some people wiser than others? Where does this knowledge come from?
A: We are all the same age because time does not exist.
Q: If time does not exist how are there past lives?
Q: What are cycles?
A: Before I explain a cycle, remember that time does not exist, but consciousness does. Wherever you are “conscious” is where you are. It is the now. It is the I AM statement and it is your current rotation. It is the cycle that you’re experiencing.
Q: Which cycle am I on?
A: An advanced rotation of this life form, a cycle of this life…not your first and not your last. Time does not exist; therefore, you do not exist in it. What you’re experiencing right now is a choice. This incarnation of you is the one you chose to be conscious of right now. All other versions of you, all other incarnations also exist, but your consciousness does not exist there. Your energy is present here.
Q: How is my energy here and how does it work with me consciously?
A: Energy has no age, but it does have frequency, vibration, and intensity.
Q: What is intensity?
A: Intensity is why some people seem to be older souls than others. It is intensity that defines how advanced spiritually someone is because this is how much energy has been put into their spiritual bodies. The availability of this energy is dependent on how many rotations of each lifetime have been experienced. It has nothing to do with age or time, but rather frequency and vibration of the spiritual body. The term “old soul” is used but physical age has nothing to do with it.
This post was original written sometime in 2013. Repurposed for this site.